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My friends are being horrible to me PDF Print E-mail
Written by Wendy Jackson   

Dear Agony Aunt

 I don't know what has been going on. I feel I am being pushed away by my four close friends. They call me names. They tell me I'm fat and mean.

I've never been a good speller, and they think it is funny. They never invite me anywhere. I feel left out. I have tried to make other friends, but when I do my old friends run them away from me. All of this started when they found out I liked the same boy one of them likes.

I cannot help who I like.

Since my friends won't let me have other friends, I stay with them. But, they make me mad. Should I have to put up with this?

Am I overreacting?

I have started to cut myself, stop eating and I cry all the time.

Do I have a problem, or have they driven me crazy? I even feel like death would be better than this. Please help me before I do something I regret.

 

Need Help

 

 

Dear Needing Help

 You should talk to someone immediately about what you are feeling. These types of emotions do not usually go away on there own. Your friends have mistreated you and you should not consider them friends. You have not done anything wrong. They are simply very immature and cruel.

 
Once you have talked with someone and gotten over the hump, so to speak, you will see things more clearly. You will be back to you strong self and you will be able to make new friends who these girls will be unable to intimidate. You are dealing with a group of bullies. They may wear skirts, but they are bullies regardless. Just keep in mind that what goes around usually comes around. These girls will meet their match one day and be put in their rightful places. Stop focusing on them, and get yourself the help you need to overcome this sad time in your life.

 Wish you well-

Agony Aunt


Comments

These girls are bullies; they are abusing you and you have to put a stop to it. Don't worry about being friends with them; with friends like these, who needs enemies?

You did nothing wrong except perhaps trusting them when you told them who you liked. Now you know better than to tell them anything.

You can talk to a trusted teacher or counselor and your parents about this. If you're worried these girls could physically harm you, then your parents could arrange to collect you to and from school. Also your parents could talk to the parents of these mean girls.

You can slowly ignore them and break away from their friendship.

Don't worry about making new friends now. Just slowly disengage from this bad set. Go to a counselor to talk and build your self confidence. Keep yourself occupied with your hobbies. Your mom or another trusted adult can be your best friend for the time being. But pls talk to a trusted adult today and let it all out, so you feel better. Keep a journal.

In the near future when you feel stronger, you will be able to make new friends who stick with you - despite these bullies. Friends can also be relatives or young friends of your family; they don't only have to be from your school.

Just focus on moving away from these girls and telling an adult how you feel for now. Later you'll make other better friends. This is just a bad patch and it will pass. Keep strong.

Posted by Lisa, on 05/19/2008 at 05:35

Hey :) don't store up your secret.
I suggest talking to your parents immediately.
Pour your heart out. I think they will all ears.
Remember to be nice and friendly to your friends.
and they will treat you in the same way :)
Dont worry!
Best wishes.

Posted by WAILING (MST-4A), on 03/16/2008 at 23:18

i am sorry to hear about that. In my opinion, you should first consider thoroughly if you still want to be friands with those of your friends. If you do, talk to them about the misunderstandings and your feelings. If you don't, just ignore them and find new friends who is really kind to you. I am sure that you are able to find a good friend in such a big world.
However, personally i would suggest you do the latter one as i don't think they are treating you as a friend.

Posted by yvonne (MST- 4A), on 03/16/2008 at 23:10

I am sorry to hear your problem. From my point of view, you don't need to be sad about that. You can make some new friends instead of treating them as your friends. If you still feel unhappy, you can try to tell your parents or teachers, I think they will help you.

Posted by Isis mst4a, on 03/16/2008 at 23:04

actually, it's not your problem.
It's your friends' problems. And they're not your friends anymore. I think you should tell your teachers and parents what they've done. So they will be punished. You don't need to worry too much about this. you will meet 'true' frineds very soon.

Posted by iulnam(MST-4A), on 03/16/2008 at 23:01

I have heard some about your problem before. I think I can help you.
First, you don't be so worry about that.Your classmatess will think you are the nerves.
Second, you should get more self-confident. You should talk about your difficulties to your friend. Let them know you have some problems around you.They will not far away sokn.

Posted by Damian form 4C mst, whose homepage is here on 03/10/2008 at 22:10

You don't have any problem. You just like the same boy as your friend. You can like what you want.
Moreover, friends would not do that kind of things, like waht you said. I suggest you to find some new friends, who really want you to be his/her friend. I believe there must be someone there.

Posted by hoi, on 03/10/2008 at 22:06

I am so sorry to hear about that. I hope you will recover soon and make some new friends. To be honest, there are a lot of people having the same problem all over the world. so don't think it is odd to be treated like that.
Cheer up!

Posted by someone, on 03/10/2008 at 21:58

Of course not! Everyone have their own flaw. That's just their problem. Don't worry too much about it and stop doing cutting yourself and doing anything that may hurt yourself. You can stay away from them and make other news friend. You can just leave them. If you still have any problem, you can have a chat with your teacher or parents or even the soical worker

Posted by Only Child (MsT), on 03/10/2008 at 21:56

I am sorry to hear your problem.
If you want to maintain your friendship,having a talk with your friends is the first step you need to do.It can help you to express your feelings and they will understand your situation.
Don't worry,be happy!

Posted by Jason Yan, on 03/09/2008 at 20:41

Of course you're not overreacting. A people who doesn't support their friend, then they're not your friends. Why don't you just stay away from them and meet some other new friends? It's not that difficult. Just to be confidence and try not to be worried. I'm sure thing will work out easily.

Posted by no one, on 03/09/2008 at 20:41

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