You're not equipped to help her yourself in the way she needs. You're young but she needs professional help. She's lucky to have a good caring friend like yourself.

The only way you can help her is by telling her parents the truth. She will resent you for awhile as she's in pain but better she resents you a bit than you let her suffer in silence and feel guilty if -heaven forbid- she harms herself. If you find it hard to talk to her parents, your parents can talk to them or you can just show them this letter you wrote this site. They will be touched by how much you care about their daughter.

Her parents are the only ones able to help her now. They can take her to a counselor or therapist and get her help. So pls show them this letter without delay.

You can also talk to a counselor at school and have him/ her contact yr friend's parents. But your best bet is talking to the parents themselves. That is the ONLY way to help her right now. So be strong and do the right thing. You are a good friend to have in a time of need- and one day she WILL appreciate your efforts.

its a tough subject for people to talk about and lots of different people have different ways of coping.

many believe going to the parents will help, but is it worth the cost of your friend?
if her parents dont already know then she doesnt want them to , and will most likely feel betrayed if you tell them.

self harm is very addictive. for some people it takes years to get over, and others never do

your friend obviously feels used and hurt by her ex, that she has no control of her life. to be shut out when she needed him the most. all you can do right now, is be there. talk about whats shes doing. dont make it something to be ashamed of. because the feeling of shame brings loneliness which just adds to the sorrow. once she comes to terms with it then she might be ready to tell you why she does these things. because if you push her to hard right now, itll only push her away.

I know it's hard, I've been in a similiar situation myself. There are really only two things you can do.

The first is to tell someone who can help her. If you have a close enough relationship, ask her about it herself, and encourage her to seek help, or at least tell her parents.

The second is to continue being a great friend. The situation is hard enough for your friend without losing a friend, always be there for her, talk to her, give her support and all that friendship stuff.

The thing you have to remember is not to think you can help her on your own. I tried and it almost crushed me, but luckily I noticed before it was too late.