I get really jealous - My Agony Aunt

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don't worry ur not the only one Im exactly the same but my friend has about 4 other best friends and a whole group of boyfriends- yes she is a slut. I get really jealous when I feel I'm losing my grip on her because if I didn't hang out with her I would be a complete loner. I always feel like people are trying to steal her away from me. You have to fight back. All girls have a bitchy side... Use it!!!! Weneva she's talking to this other friend join in and then start talking about the sleepover your going to have which the other girl isn't invited to or talk about anything that makes your best friend interested or excited and the other girl Hasn't got a clue about! Make your self look better than the other friend.

Posted by kat, on 06/29/2008 at 16:10

We know another girl in your situation. Unfortunately she is not reacting very well to what's been happening which has led to her being distanced from the whole friendship group resulting in her further jealousy and bitchiness (she squished a woodlouse she thought was getting more attention than her :P). Don't end up in her situation - our advice is just to keep cool about it and not get stressy, then at least other people will appreciate you. (And woodlice will remain as one)

Posted by Jo&Jo, on 06/05/2008 at 10:43

You really need to become less reliant on your one friend. Your friend might feel a bit suffocated if you need her attention all the time, also if she knew just how jealous you felt about her friendship with the other person it might make her want to spend less time with you. No one wants clingy, needy people depending on them because it is too much of a responsibility and a bit scary. Try to have fun with other people and always remember you are a great friend who people love to be around. Act as if this is the total truth and it will become the truth.

Posted by Julie Bailey, on 05/28/2008 at 08:07

You have to try and make other friends yourself, so yr not so reliant on yr best friend. You've been friends a long time&I'm sure she realizes yr value& prefers you to the other girl, even though it doesn't seem that way to you.

Don't show the other girl you're jealous as that will make you feel and look bad. Stay away when the other girl's there and let them have time alone while you go out and do something else- if it makes you feel bad to see them laughing together.

The more grown up you act about this the more yr best friend will appreciate you& value yr friendship. The other girl might just be a passing friend.

Occupying yourself with hobbies& doing stuff you like on yr own or with other friends will help you feel better. You should try to know this other girl more one on one. If yr best friend likes her, she must have some good qualities. Don't let jealousy get the better of you.

Write a journal of how you feel and tell yr mom if yr close. Also tell yr best friend that sometimes you feel sad and jealous when she's always with the other girl- and that you'd like more quality time with her too.

Posted by Lisa, on 05/14/2008 at 05:32

i have been there done that and definitely got the t-shirt
My mate Bek was like stuck to this new girl for like 2 months and i was so jealous but if youve been friends for a long time shell realise your important either that or do the wrong thing and wait for her to say somethin bout your firned and tell her - itll happen in the end.Or you can just ignore your friendand sheel realise what she had
Hope this helps(even if it aint the'right' thin to do
Best Wishes
Dannii
xxxxxx

Posted by Dannii, on 02/24/2008 at 06:21

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