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Dear agony aunt,
My mum devorced my homosexual dad 3 years ago and went on a dating site she met up with this guy called tony he has older kids who dont live with him and he is devorced.
 I have spoken to friends but I dont know what to do I really dont feel like its right. I also dont want my mum seeing this stranger shes been out with him several times and is going out with him tomorrow he came into our house last time and said hi but I just ignored him and pretended i was watching tv what should I do??
 I cant see my dad because he doesnt want anything to do with us who can I talk to what should I do I dont want to hurt my mum we argue more than oftern now and I know its because of tony.
Please help
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It's hard when yr mom starts seeing someone new as you always hope yr parents will get together again. But yr dad wasn't honest with yr mom and they broke up for reasons that matter to them. Now, yr mom needs& deserves to find happiness. It's not fair to expect her to spend her life alone. She must also be worrying about her since you argue a lot. Give this man (Tony) a chance even if it doesn't feel comfy at first. If he's nice& he makes yr mom happy, things will improve for all of you. Maybe he can't take yr dad's place but maybe he can help make you feel better as yr dad's in a tough place now & needs time alone- which makes you feel lonely. Tell yr mom when you're both in a good mood how lonely and worried you are but that you love her and want her to be happy. If you live yr life and go out with friends and enjoy yr hobbies and give this new man a chance, yr life will get much better- even if it doesn't seem like it now. If you need to talk to someone, find a counselor at school or tell yr mom to find you one; they will listen and keep it confidential. It's also good to write how you're feeling in a journal. Be honest and nice with yr mom, so you can have a good relationship with her. Remember that just because she likes this new man, it doesn't mean she loves you any less. Her heart hurts because you're sad, so reach out to her today.

Posted by Lisa, on 05/14/2008 at 04:01

My mum ad dad are separated too. they separated when i was 10. at first i was exactly like you, i hated who ever my mum or dad went out with. i think it was because i couldn't accept that my mum and dad were over. It does get easier though. Maybe you should give this guy a chance and see what it is like. It may turn out to be really good. My dad's girlfriend is now living with us and so is her older son and daughter, and i love it. If anyone had told me that i would be saying that 2 or 3 years ago i would have laughed. If he makes your mum happy then why not? Maybe you should explain your feelings to your mum. Try and do it when you aren't arguing and listen to each others points of view.
i hope this helps.
x

Posted by xSophx, on 04/14/2008 at 19:09

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