I am preganant but i am onley 13 i do want a baby but my mum said she would
kick me out if i got pregnant under 16. I dont want to have a abortion or put it
in care .My boyfreind also wants the baby . I am having a girl.
My sister is 17 and has 3 kids already .I am really hevily pregnant and i am scared my mum will suspect
somthing soon . What do i do
Im also 13 and i have just had a baby girl who is 3 months old now and my parents threatened 2 kick me out but they havent. I think if your mum loves you she will care for you and your baby. My baby is called lilly rose and is worth everybit of stress.
Posted by Becky, on 08/26/2008 at 14:49
get rid of it, i'm sorry but how much ever u want the baby, u cnt have her, your only 13years old obviously your sister is not the best example, she is a teenage pregent as well ith 3 kids, im very sorry but give the damn baby up, i know it must hurt but u have to do this, your not only going to ruin ur life ur going to ruin his life as well..[b][/b]
Posted by Becky, whose homepage is here on 08/18/2008 at 18:19
hi there dont worry all you have to do is talk to your mum i am 18 and just had a baby girl she is now a month old and i was 17 when i fell pregnant and told my mum which she always said to me that she would kick me out if i got preganant and she was there for me all the way.
pregancy isnt a easy thing to go threw on your own so tell them and you will be able to enjoy pregnancy.
Posted by natalie, on 08/07/2008 at 19:16
i think you need to tell ure mum cos i think she would appreciate it alot mre if you told her rather than her finding out,because she will. shes ure mum she had to go through it, and she will know how much support you will need. you could also talk to your sister because she willwant to be there for you. whatever you do dont go through this alone!
x
Posted by Louise, on 07/15/2008 at 03:26
i no ur a bit young to have a baby well im only 14 and have dreamed about having a baby but i no that it can destroy my life i reckon your best option is to talk to your mum and tell her how you feel if she appriciates you for telling her then she will be with you in thick and thin..
Posted by chloe, on 06/17/2008 at 05:36
I think 13 is young to have a baby. Tell your mum about it because you are saying your heavily pregnant and she will start to notice because she has had children her self. If your insisting on keeping the baby good luck. But make sure you can provide for it. Tell you mum asap because you will need to get a room sorted for the baby and cot, bottles, clothes ect.. X
Posted by Tee-Jayy, on 06/13/2008 at 08:51
whatever anyone says it is youre decision wether you keep your baby or put it into care. i got pregnant when i was 14, and i never told anyone, eventually people at school started to suspect things and a teacher asked me if i was pregnant and i said yes, so she took me home and told my mum. By this time i was 8 months pregnant, before anyone found out. it was a bad decision not to say anything. the chances are your mum won't shout because somebody is there with you but you really need to tell her. She will eventually come around to the idea. DO NOT listen to anyone saying that you are too young to care for a baby, you may be young and talkin from experience it is really hard as i decided to keep my baby and she is now 2 months old, but the feeling you get when you have a child is the best feeling ever. just because your young does not mean you cannot care for a baby. being a mother is the hardest job you can do, and if you're willing to take on the responsibility then i have so much respect for you. good luck with everything xxxxx
Posted by Laura, on 05/26/2008 at 14:29
If you're too scared to talk to yr mom, then you need to find an adult you can trust like a counselor or a teacher; this person can also help you break the news to your mom. Or you can go to your sister- since she's been in this position herself- and she can support you and help you tell yr mom. If your mom kicks you out, you can always stay with your sister till you get back on your feet.
At 13 though, you ARE FAR too YOUNG to raise a child; you're not financially or emotionally ready. And your boyfriend might not hang around even if he now says he will. So you should get adult advice and THINK. He might leave and even if he stays, what can he do for you? What kind of job can he get at 13? Would he really be there with you changing nappies or going out with his friends? What's more realistic?
It IS YOUR choice but I do think you should give up the baby for adoption if you don't like to abort. You will most likely regret keeping the baby in the long run as you won't have a life and you will miss most of your teenage years. Plus you and your boyfriend are far too young to marry- and putting the BABY'S welfare FIRST means realizing any baby would be better off with TWO loving parents (I know from experience how hard it is being a single parent). So, this is just my opinion. It's up to you. But you should think carefully and ask your sister's advice since she's been down that road. Just so you don't do anything you'll regret later. Good luck.
Posted by Lisa, on 05/20/2008 at 02:58
I don't think you you should tell your mum. She will get overly annoyed. Just eat more so she thinks youre getting fat. Then when youre in labour just say youre off to a friend house. dont copmlain about this comment not working cause it worked for me!
Posted by Alex, on 05/16/2008 at 06:32
There are many options you can take in a situation like his. and i am sure you are worrying what route to take . You need to explain to your mum how you got pregnant and that you dont know what to do . prefferably tell her when she is happy . it is actually illegal for your mum to kick you out because you are only 13 so i wouldnt worry to much about that . if you do decide to keep the baby you need to make an arrangement with your boyfriend about what he is going to do to contribute to your childs up-bringing. This way you can be sure you are in a comfortable position . Also please stay in school because even though you were dumb enough to get yourself pregnant there is no such thing as a mistake and you are doing your self many favours if you carry on your education
Posted by lucy, on 05/01/2008 at 11:24
I feel very sorry for you but telling your mum is the right thing to do... Tell her when she is calm and happy.... It's your choice if you want it or not but make sure you keep up the education...
Best luck in the future
Gracie
Posted by Grace Vandyke, on 04/17/2008 at 16:07
I know that it might be hard to tell your mum about your pregnancy, but I just feel as if you're aswell telling her beause before you know it you will have started to develop a bump and she will also notice other telltale signs of pregnancy. I think it's great that you ar ekeeping the baby, because I think abortions are horrible and you seem a responsible young girl, by taking the consequences for your actions shows that you are much more ready for a baby than a lot of younger girls out there. By saying you are 'much more ready for a baby', I do NOT mean you are ready for a baby, because 13 is far too young and all you should be caring about is yourself and your family & friends. Anyway good luck to you and I hope you all the best for the future :-)
Posted by Rachael, on 04/15/2008 at 10:46
hi well you seem to set your mind on keeping the baby (which is good) i hate abortions i think theyre muder so well done there. i think you should tell your mum. as hard as it is. the baby will be born and she will find out surely its better if she finds out from you
Posted by hugs, on 04/14/2008 at 22:28
You absolutely need to talk to someone you trust. Does your sister live away from your home? Talk to her about living arrangements if you're truly scared that your mother will dissallow for you to live with her. And frankly, if your sister is 17 and has three children, she couldn't have been any older than 14 or 15 when she began her series of pregnancies. If your mother tollerated your sister, she should also tolerate you. But you should seriously consider what you're getting into. Caring for a baby at any age is hard, but at 13, I can only imagine it to be exceptionally difficult. And chances are, your boyfriend will no longer want the baby when he realises what actually goes into caring for her.
